I’m back after a long break with another guest post from Zara Lewis! Learn about 5 parenting strategies that can help you boost your children’s IQ through proper guidance and nurture.
All parents want their kids to grow up to be emotionally and socially aware, communicative and smart. Luckily, it’s more than possible to raise a child with high IQ and EQ with the help of adequate nurture and guidance. Still, you need to worry a bit less and support your kids’ interests a bit more, regardless of how unimportant these actions might seem to you. Young children are just starting to perceive the world and while you should definitely instruct them, you shouldn’t force your ideals onto them.
Let the kids choose
Having the freedom of choice is essential for raising a confident, self-aware and logical child. This goes for many different aspects in life, from taking up hobbies and interests to forming new friendships. Of course, you have to set some boundaries to avoid danger, but when it comes to social contact with peers and play time, children should be allowed to express themselves on their own terms. It’s natural that you want to prevent them from experiencing any hurt, especially if you see that a certain hobby is not for them or that a certain friend is not a true friend at all. Still, kids have to learn all these things on their own and accept the facts with their own power of perception. In that respect, trial and error has to be allowed as your child grows up.
Continuing with the trial and error necessity, there is also one other aspect that you need to take into account. Basically, if your child experiences any kind of hurt or failure, refrain from reprimand and preaching. Replace “I told you so” with “You did your best” or “Have you learned any valuable lesson from your experience?”. Just with you being there to offer comfort and helpful nudge to keep going with positive attitude, kids will learn how to deal with various types of problems that they are bound to encounter in their lives without blaming it all on themselves or thinking they’re not good enough.
All kids have a need to feel responsible for something seemingly important but a lot of parents fail to provide them with this experience. Again, this is all due to the parents’ wish to spare the child from any worries but you’ll be only doing a disservice to your kids. By allowing them to be responsible for various age-appropriate chores and tasks around the house, kids will undoubtedly feel a lot more capable and confident, which will boost their EQ. What’s more, some chores involve the use of logic and critical thinking which will boost their IQ as well.
Any sport will not only improve the child’s fitness, skill, and physical development but critical thinking, too. Still, if you want your kids to get the benefits for both IQ and EQ, sign them up for team sports. Again, let your child choose their favorite team sport. They will have to learn how to work in a group to achieve the joint goal, how to interact with others, avoid conflict and understand the teammates better. This all leads to improved social and emotional intelligence. Moreover, team sports require the use of logic, quick analysis, and constant brain power. If there’s no sports center for young kids in your vicinity, don’t worry too much. Get some basic soccer equipment and organize tournaments and games for all the kids from the neighborhood in your own backyard or nearby park!
Creativity and logic boosting toys
You should never force or pressure your kids into playing certain games or taking up some creative hobby, but you can always get them interested in these activities in a subtle way. Make sure that they have their art supplies at their reach and don’t be afraid to use them yourself to show how fun this can be. Parents are role models for their kids and simple show is a great way to encourage creative activities without being too overbearing. What’s more, there are many toys and games that boost logic, critical thinking, and cognitive development, so why not buy those for a surprise gift or birthday? Kids will still be happy and actively play with them and your intent won’t be obvious or pressuring.
Boosting your kids IQ and EQ is a constant job and part of good nurture and guidance at all times. In that respect, you need to have a lot of patience and keep your cool. Kids don’t react to forcefulness and anger well, but they do acquire your teachings when treated with respect.
Zara Lewis (Twitter: @ZaraELewis) is a mom, designer and a regular contributor to highstylife.com, devoted to implementing healthy life habits in every aspect of life of her family and friends. She seeks for beauty in everything that surrounds her. Will start a blog about it once. Until then writes her diary occasionally. Romantic soul and tech geek in one body. She enjoys hiking, cycling, yoga and cooking.